What is the best way to ease someone's pain and suffering? In this beautifully animated RSA Short, Dr Brené Brown reminds us that we can only create a genuine empathic connection if we are brave enough to really get in touch with our own fragilities.
Voice: Dr Brené Brown
Animation: Katy Davis (AKA Gobblynne) www.gobblynne.com
Production and Editing: Al Francis-Sears and Abi Stephenson
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Dr Brené Brown is a research professor and best-selling author of "Daring Greatly: How the Courage to be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent and Lead" (Penguin Portfolio, 2013).
She has spent the past decade studying vulnerability, courage, worthiness, and shame.
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Ιn Greek language these words have another meaning. This is a common phenomenon.
Just mention it for those who know Greek: Η λέξη εμπάθεια (από το αρχαίο εμπαθής) είναι μια ελληνιστική λέξη που σήμαινε αρχικά «το έντονο πάθος» για να εξελιχθεί στη σημασία «κακότητα, προκατειλημμένη αρνητική ή εχθρική στάση». Η λέξη ελήφθη από την Αγγλική ως empathy για να δηλώσει «τη συμμετοχή στο πάθος, σ’ αυτό που παθαίνει κάποιος και υποφέρει, στη δυστυχία τού άλλου μέχρι πλήρους ταυτίσεως» και, τελικά, «τη συμπάθεια, τη συμπόνια». Έφτασε δηλ. να δηλώνει το ακριβώς αντίθετο τής ελληνικής λέξης εμπάθεια !
Διαφορετικά εξελίχθηκε η ομόρριζη ελληνική λέξη συμπάθεια, η οποία πέρασε επίσης στην Αγγλική (μέσω τής Λατινικής) ως sympathy. Κι αυτή δήλωσε «την εναρμόνιση με τα συναισθήματα κάποιου άλλου» για να φτάσει τελικά και στη σημασία «συλλυπητήρια» ως έκφραση «τής συμμετοχής στη λύπη, στο πένθος, στην ατυχία τού άλλου».
I'm not criticizing this video, I think her work is great. My point of view is I've done these 'at least' replies before in the past, but not in the condescending kind of tone used here, not because I'm not being empathetic, but because I will try and say anything to help someone in need.
Empathy is when one can understand or even feel what another may be feeling. Trying to understand another's prospective and not judging are some of the ways we can show empathy. When one is empathetic they would not use words like at least. We all should become a little more empathetic.
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Please forgive the spammed wall of shouting. I am doing it to try to feel better after something terrible has happened and I can't find the privacy to shout without someone hearing me due to the current population.
I think that is wrong.
Empathy is describing the connection to the person (Me --> Person) and sympathy is describing it the other way around. (Person --> Me)
If i am empathic, I will appeal sympathic to the person.
Where did this woman get her definition of sympathy? She puts sympathy and empathy at odds with each other when they are not. Sympathy means feeling what your friend is feeling, the root word (sym) also found in symbiotic relationships, means that you feel together. It means you are sad because your friend is sad. Empathy means you understand the feelings of the other person, but you can't relate, you are not feeling what they are feeling but you "get it".
Stop trying to change the language.
Please take a sec to look at my short film "UNARMED". This film is about the effects POLICE BRUTALITY can have on a family. I poured my heart & soul into this film and you would literally make my DREAMS COME TRUE by watching and giving feedback. I am a student filmmaker and I literally went broke to produce this film! All feedback is wanted, Thanks!!!
Empathy is very important in marriage and parenting. At least three times a day I'll need to take my ego out of a situation/conflict and listen for what's really going on. Then, to convey that they're not alone, and I get it, and accept them. Then to suggest a next step (which isn't always helpful, actually). It's exhausting, but it makes a more intimate family.
I don't agree with this examples. I feel empathy and sympathy should go together. If I'm in a hole, yes, I'd hope someone would listen and feel with me, but then I definitely need someone to say "hey, let's go get a sandwich", because we can't both be in the hole forever.
P.S. I don't know what the lady in the first animation was drinking, but it was definitely not an espresso. Did you see her eyes? LOL
Great, love it, a question does this only apply to personal relationships or also in business? What would 'Tough empathy' as often coined in terms of leadership look like in this animation, how often do leaders really know what someone needs as compared to what they want?
This is wrong.
I guess the two words lost their true meaning when they got borrowed from latin languages into english. The words' roots may be greek, but they most likely got into english through french.
In fact both the feelings mentioned in the video are pretty good in their own terms.
What those words ACTUALLY mean:
Empathy: picking up other people's moods *without* use of explanations. Example: you *just* see a sad person, you get sad too.
Sympathy: being able to picture (and share) one's feelings after being told. Example: you see your friend sad, you ask what happened. Only after your friend explains to you the fact, you can relate.
One of the core differences is that with sympathy you often picture the fact happening to yourself, and also that with empathy you don't need to know what happened.
Additionaly, it's thought that you are born with a fixed level of the empathy, but you can work on your simpathy.
As you can see, the antler guy has nothing to do with neither term, unlike like the authors want you to think.
I get the vibe that this video is yet another bullshit for the ''I'm-more-sensible-than-you''-people.
Please thumb this comment up so people actually learn something useful from the video.
I will sure use this in my training course ' Energizing Communication with troubled youth ' , it's great, thank you! Empathy - genuineness - timing - trust - humor : all very important ! elladejong.com
I actually think this is a bad video. It makes sympathy a bad word, but by current definitions, it's not. In fact, empathy is a new word, stemming from sympathy. For example, the word sympathy actually means to feel sorry, have pity, and relate to another emotionally. Empathy is understanding what someone has gone thru. I'm a nerd so let's take Snape from the Harry Potter series for example. I can empathize with Snape. He deals with unrequited love and being bullied. I understand and can put myself in those shoes because I truly understand the feelings of both unrequited love and being bullied, but I find that Snape still makes horrible choices, becoming a terrorist, stalker, and being a mean bitter man. Therefore I do not Sympathise with him. I feel like this video gives a negative thing the wrong definition, sympathy. Both sympathy and Empathy are good, but what this video describes as sympathy has NOTHING to do with its actual definition. Liberties are there to make take it and redefine it. So shame on you for confusing people.
So many great comments here. I'm reminded of a scene in the movie Inside Out where Joy is constantly trying to make people joyful by telling them to ignore the bad while Sadness just sits, listens, and seemingly commiserates with others. I tend to interpret sympathy as trying to tell people to get out of their dark world and come join me in my beautiful world while empathy is withholding judgment and simply be there for them, for better or for worse. The final words in the video were the most powerful--rarely does a response make something better; what makes something better is connection.
What she saying is sympathy is pity. Sympathy is when you actually have been through the same situation as the other person, and empathy is putting yourself in someone else's shoes, but still feeling with them
"I don't even know what to say right now, I'm just so glad you told me." Literally the thing I say to everyone who opens up to me (mostly in German, however). And I mean it that way, rarely can I do something about the issue, but I can always just be "there".
This was a powerful addition to training I conducted on emotional intelligence. A couple of people that really lacked empathy commented 'I get it now'. Very powerful 2:53 minute video. P.S. I love the Blame video as well.
0:54 Today I felt horrible. I went to class feeling extremely sad and it only got worst as the day went on. I was constantly holding back tears while in my classes and when I went to the final class, my prof showed us this video. At that moment, I was feeling okay, thinking that this short video was a chance to take a break and get my mind off of things. But then this particular moment in the video happened and a whole wave of sadness hit me. It seems completely random an silly but she described what I felt like in a few words and I almost broke down in the middle of class. My eyes watered and I was sniffling quietly, trying to pass it off as if I had a cold. Then the bear in the animation came down and said those simple words. Even though those words came from a random video and wasn't directed towards me, it pushed my to finally talk to my family and friends because I desperately needed someone to connect with and someone to talk to. Anyways random story and kinda depressing but just wanted to say thank to this video and its animators for making me realize that I need help and to find someone to talk to.
I am so happy that I've watched this video. All my life I've been thinking completly backword. I've always thought that I"m useless becouse I never comfort people who confide in me. I was listening, feeling their pain and trying to show them that they are not alone. I've never seen the point in coming up with "bright" side. Now I know that I may was more helpful than I thought. 😊
I am a teacher, I just found this video is suitable for my teaching in class, and I am planning to write a teaching plan and join the teaching plan contest, I wonder if you could admit the authorization, and I will indicate the source clearly. Thanks for your help
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This video is absolutely awful and literally wrong. She doesn't even know the definition of sympathy. It's feeling pity or sorrow for someone else's misfortune. Empathy is being able to feel or understand what the person is going through because YOU have gone through the same thing. Sympathy is trying to understand because you haven't been in that situation before. The "sympathy" in this video is called being an asshole. Whoever this person is needs to actually learn what sympathy is because she has absolutely no grasp.
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