This speech is a call to action. We spend about eighty percent of our day at work, the rest is at home. If we have a bad day at work we are likely to take that negativity home with us and vice versa. It is of paramount importance that we create healthy environments in the spaces that most affect our lives by giving of our best and receiving the like in return. The 5 Chairs is a powerful and systematic method which helps us master our own behaviours and manage the behaviours of others. To be a good leader is to contribute to the success and happiness of everyone, at work and at home, on a conscious level. The 5 Chairs offer 5 Choices. Which will you choose?
Behavioral Coach, Corporate Trainer, Author of ‘5 Chairs 5 Choices’. Louise Evans heads up her own organization in Florence, Italy from which she offers international leadership development, cross-cultural transitional coaching and personal development programmes for individuals and teams working in international contexts. She is English but has lived and worked in Germany, France and for the last 30 years in Italy.
Three things have always been important in her life - people, travel and the performing arts - all three of which she combines in her daily work. Having travelled to seven-five countries and experienced culture shock three times, Louise brings multiple perspectives to the present moment to help people connect across their differences. Louise believes deeply in people’s ability to grow and transform. What she values most is helping people strengthen their self-awareness and their understanding of others so that they bring their best selves into the world in every situation.
This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at http://ted.com/tedx
I came across this the moment i had a heated argument with my husband and i was so angry i wanted to confront him...but this really helped me to view the argument in a different way.. and when i finally talked to him i understood his point of view and we forgave each other❤ thank you For this
This presentation was absolutely awesome n well delivered... self control, self awareness of ones behavior is an essential piece in order to become a better person; especially when it comes to leadership of others.
When another's words, and actions too feel hurtful, even blaming and critical, it is difficult to know how to respond, and at times we need that pause to reflect on the situation. I personally resonate with the "energies under stress" that Donna Eden and David Feinstein teach, for they learned in their marriage how truly different their lenses are-she is tonal and deeply kinesthetic, and he is digital and visual; until they learned to honor their differences and respect core differences Donna felt unheard and judged harshly by David's style, and so they created a method to STOP, each learn to ground her/himself, then come back with an apology when that was appropriate, and they have energy routines they share daily with one another. They knew the communication styles you describe here, but it wasn't enough to handle their energetic differences that they learned in writing a book for couples in relationships, and now they teach all over the world. Creating healthy environments is crucial to really be able to hear and appreciate our different ways of perceiving reality.
A good presentation and well shared thoughts. The story with your daughter was really an ongoing one in many of our age people. Hopefully trained up to sit on a green chair...Still long way to go for reaching the blues......
1. Attack, misbehave,blame,complian,gossip, punish,judge.
2. vulnerable, judge ourselves, low self esteem, feeling of rejection, self doubt , fear of failing and disappointment, feeling of a victim like no body cares or loves me
3. Being vigilant, being mindfull, observant,we stop, pause, wait and be conscious and WAIT (What Am I Thinking ). Observe the person and wonder why is she behaving in such a way
4. Detect our own behaviour, being self aware, we know who we r, we know what we want, we know where we r going, we r not afraid to speak our truth but we know our boundaries, we r powerfull, here we grow we r free and become our full power,we become assertive but not aggressive. At no1 we lose our power
5. Display of empathy, compassion,understanding, putting our egos in the back seat, listen to people and care for them, embrace other reality,
other perspective, other diversity, being tolerant and what is important for the person sitting before us and to stay connected
Wow! I will definitely be taking these chairs home with me. I can see myself in each one of these chairs, including the red one, which I typically do not verbalize but my non-poker face can't lie. I spend a lot of time observing and thinking before speaking. Connect was my main strength in Strength Finders survey. Lately, I have been challenged to see the other point of view, especially in the US and our very polarized political landscape. It has been a source of sadness for me and it is affecting my mood and life. I will try the purple chair, but sometimes I think that I need the purple pill.
It's very encouraging topic of how to teach people not to be judgemental. One of the best TED shows I've ever watched! Thank you for inspiring me more to do the right thing. I will always remember these 5 chairs everytime I am in an uncontrolling circumstances.
Great job!!..louise...i am also studying about beahviours...but this is the best example ,I could ever find...for me...u help me in a very good way because..i am learning state control and...the problem is that .i forget to control..and just go with the flow(old beahviour pattern and thinking) but now ....whenever oppurtunity comes....i just go in my mind...say...on WHICH CHAIR I SHOULD BE FOR THIS PERSON TO DO WHAT I WANT THEM TO DO...AND IS GOOD FOR THEM....THANKYOU...
Thank you, Louise, for this presentation along with each of those quotes. I still struggle with them each day yet every day is better than the previous day.
Hoping to set up one of these in my house and gift it to people as well.
This is exactly what I needed. amazing presentation. Everything is well executed and I love the chakra symbolism along with some of my favorite mentors. I'll be sitting with the giraffe, dolphin, and meerkat :P
Thank you. I have much to share with my husband and daughter. Hopefully they'll listen. Hopefully I'll be able to apply these thoughts when communicating with them and others. This should be taught in high schools.
Extraordinary speech; all this we can do thinking before we take a decision; it is very important to have our emotions under control, and to make a pause, before to speak.I observed the word fly, and we can hurt somebody. We feel guilty, and the others frustrated.
Hi Louise, I loved watching this video. I usually don't comment on any videos, but this is too good. I often sit on all different kind of chairs at different situations. I never used to judge people as a child or a teenager until I turned 25. During those periods, I ended up in lot of troubles to find good relationships as I never judged and I saw them as just individuals. And it was very easy for anyone to cheat me in terms of finances or promises. After these bitter experiences, I became very judgmental when it comes to getting into relationships with people. As a result, I ended up having no friends at all... I always focused doing the right thing at all times, which I realize now might have taken away a lot of my energy and time. As you mentioned in your video, I used to do the same with my mum..
But now I realize that there is a thin line between being able to understand people and judge people
i have a question..people. as they grow commits mistakes...and u develop n learn to handle things in each n every experiences u passby ..and one's defense that is being enhanced is judgement...how can i separate judgment on things or people beforehand as my guard on my future actions so i wont be fooled or heartbroken ???pls enlighten me..fb messenger : starpinkalu brhtu..............dp: my kiddo
Hi Louise, I just stumbled across your talk and thought it was brilliant, I was wondering if I could share it and mention your talk in a presentation I am giving in a few weeks? Keep up the great work. Matt
Curious to know if you have curriculum for classrooms (K and up)? This is something that all ages need to learn (and unlearn communication styles that divides instead of brings people together). Thank you for a beautiful and clear presentation of your work!
It’s also good to know that every one of us as human beings in some point struggles and don’t know how to behave. Thank you for making us understand that trying to get to know before judging other people is crucial for healthy relationships
Waw! that is exactly what an incredibly beautiful, successful, meaningful, rich, simple, effective and inspiring talk looks like.
I loved it, learned a lot of things and burned it in my memory. Thank you very much!
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Адвокат по телефону получит предварительную информацию от вас, после чего может в спокойной обстановке восполнить возможные пробелы и проанализировать
правовые нормы. Он оценит все факты и сможет подготовить развернутую консультацию для вас. По этой причине адвокат является вашим сторонником в
разрешении возникших проблем. Вы сбережете свои средства, обратившись за телефонной консультацией.
Таким образом, обращаясь по телефону к услугам адвоката, вы получаете возможность решить возникшие проблемы с минимальными финансовыми и временными
затратами. В некоторых случаях в дальнейших очных консультациях не возникает необходимости. По этой причине помощь адвоката, оказываемая по телефону,
Несомненно, сложность разрешения семейных неурядиц обусловлено тем, что между супругами, как правило, нет соглашения, брачного контракта и они предъявляют друг другу различные требования, как материального так и морального характера. Как показывает наша практика, прийти в такой ситуации к обоюдному решении семейного спора очень сложно и, порой, без вмешательства адвоката по семейным делам,— невозможно.
Доверяя решение своего семейного дела (спора) конкретному специалисту, нужно понимать, что не каждый юрист в Украине может предоставить профессиональную помощь в сфере семейного права. Нужно, как минимум, проверить отзывы о нём именно по семейный делам, а как максимум - убедиться в получении юридического образования и адвокатского свидетельства.
Обращаясь к нам, Вы можете быть уверены, что будете работать с компетентными специалистами именно в области семейного права. При первому требованию, мы предоставим красные дипломы о высшем юридическом образовании ведущих высших учебных заведений, адвокатское свидетельство и ссылки на Клиентов, их рекомендации, а также сможете пообщаться с ними в телефонном режиме или при личной встречи. Мы гарантирует качество своих услуг!
и других законов,
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для решения спора.
Заблуждением является мнение, что семейный адвокат оказывает помощь только при возникновении проблемы. Надежный специалист ориентирован на долгосрочное сотрудничество и заинтересован в благополучии клиента. Поэтому он превращается в эффективного советника, способного оказать квалифицированную юридическую помощь по самым разным вопросам и предостеречь от необдуманных действий.