The fifth annual TEDxToronto conference took place on September 26, 2013 at The Royal Conservatory of Music.
For our 2013 TEDxToronto Conference, all talks, performances and demos were rooted in our selected theme, "The Choices We Make."
About the Speaker:
Mark Henick is a mental health advocate. Informed by his direct experience with this aspect of the health care system, Mark has authored commentaries on issues relating to mental health for major newspapers across Canada and the U.S. His undergraduate degree is in Psychology and Philosophy, with a graduate degree in Child Development. At 22, he served as the youngest President of a provincial Canadian Mental Health Association division in history. He is the youngest member of the board of directors for the Mental Health Commission of Canada.
For more information visit www.tedxtoronto.com
In the spirit of ideas worth spreading, TEDx is a program of local, self-organized events that bring people together to share a TED-like experience. At a TEDx event, TEDTalks video and live speakers combine to spark deep discussion and connection in a small group. These local, self-organized events are branded TEDx, where x = independently organized TED event. The TED Conference provides general guidance for the TEDx program, but individual TEDx events are self-organized.* (*Subject to certain rules and regulations)
I try to tell myself that I should blow my brains out and that I can do stuff and stop think about what other people think about me but that voice in my head keeps telling me you can’t do it you’re nothing nobody likes you. I really don’t know what I can do.
All I can say is that there needs to be a rule that suicide victims have to do it in a way that’s never been done before - say a homemade submarine that opens the hatches into the cabin when underwater, launching yourself into the air with fireworks, invading a nuclear facility with 30 other suicidal and stealing a device, then blowing all of you up, it’ll make the suicide rate surge then drop dramatically as all the options are taken up. Nobody kills themselves as nobody can come up with a way that’s never been done before. Boom. Done.
its only a matter of time for me before I end up imploding and offing myself. I see it coming now and there's nothing I can do to stop it. I've tried everything to help and its not giving up no matter what I do or how hard I try.
I never intend to advertise certain books, but "How to Stop Worrying and Start Living" by Dale Carnegie, yeah, it's a long-term and best selling book in the world, and it had given a light in the dark of my heart before. I wonder how many people read it and they deterred from committing suicide. Please take down your unbearable burden, I really hope you get well.
When you live in a country with no opportunities and everything you attempt to start collapses because you don't possess the funding to get it off the ground, when eating every day becomes a luxury, when you have been on the street not because of drugs, crime or alcohol, but because you persued your dream and the threat of landing back on the street hangs over your head, then you dont need to be depressed to commit suicide.
I don’t have a bubble that’s the problem.... I understand too much.... to the point where I am classified as a “misunderstanding student” because I see reality no matter what! On a school letter to my parents from my guidance councilor it STATED “Your child is unable to produce a positive environment for herself, she uses to much detail when speaking and thinks excessively long about a passage or conversation” since I read that I just haven’t spoken in school and I’m suffering in my subconscious mind swirling constantly my intelligence is making me want to end my life!
STABBED at the age of 13 yo by a student who just wanted to know what it feels like to stab someone.Followed by 3 guys with a baseball bat threating me after the event of 9/11Rejected by an ENTIRE community because of my ethnic background and my accent.Received death threats in high schoolGrew up in the middle of the bombs and the mass massacresLost my papa at the age of 6 yo (this is why i'm so AFRAID of men, boys, etc...)Mentally illPhysical disability, under anti-depressants since 2002Lost my job and dropped out of school =I have lived enough I have seen enough at the age of 34 yo, isolated no friends no lover, only with my mom who is getting older and older...I JUST WANT TO FINISH MY LIFE i dont want to be part of this world anymore.
It s crazy….but..what doesn't kill u make u stronger….it makes u a fighter ...and it did make me a fighter...i became Strong to the point where almost nothing hurts me anymore. ...Its kinda crazy, but it is the truth ...the most u suffer and u survive the pain ...the most strong u become….when life is pinky roses and pinky Butterflies….u become a little baby a little doll because u r over protected….HOWEVER...when u go though S**** u have no choice but become STRONG as u have no idea….and if it was not my pain my suffering and my survival….i would be hurt by anybody and hurt by everything…..….i became i fighter…..when i see my cousins who are so lucky because they had it very easy…….they are so overprotected….so lucky…..anything in life hurts them and make them cry….me......however…..i became a soldier…..i swear…..NO PAIN NO GAIN!.....
He's actually right with all the points, and the one i wanted to hear from the beginning is if everytime a person like me feels this unending pain, there's also that feeling of hope, i don't why but it's just there, like there's pain then hope comes after, so just like him i'll keep going, i don't know what's at the end of the line but i'll through it, doesn't matter if i'm a lone or not as long as i feel that hope then i can keep going.
This is the first time I’ve felt completely understood by anyone. I’ve only once attempted suicide and used to inflict self harm but luckily I know better and feel better. Everything that was happening before may even have doubled now but I know to think and feel in the truest way possible for me. Even though I may feel completely numb as I think of the pain but I stay determined and focus on everything being better. Things will never be how they were again but I will push on. I’m only 12 but I’ve learnt to push on and solve the problems with other peoples help there but never let anyone take my future.
My neighbour is a epitome of survival. He was an owner of a showroom of cars... Luxurious lifestyle... But one day, he lost everything in a fatal accident... Wife and kid died. ... He lost his voice and some reflexes in that accident.... He was unable to do any kind of work by himself for almost 5 years..... Including urinating and defaecation... His buisness was destroyed... Some partners cheaed him and you cant even imagine how hard it was for him..... The conditions were perfect to commit suicide and he even lost his some sanity..... But salute to the man, he recovered bravely.. The owner of a car showroom now washes cars by going home to home everyday to earn his bread....his desire to survive defeated all odds.... Everyone should learn from his story that life will test your limits each day.....hang in there.
The thing you said about being in a hurricane and feeling like you have control over something reminds me a lot of what Jaiden said about anorexia; you don’t do it because you want to, you do it because you feel like you have to have some control. Fortunately for me, I have found some minor ways to achieve relative perceived control over the years that hasn’t been life-threatening; but I can tell you this, I’ve had times where I felt like I didn’t even need suicide to stop living. No, I’ve never attempted anything, but I haven’t been too far off from it either; i’m not entirely sure what kept me going all this tim, but fortunately I reached a point that I began to realize that all my efforts were worth something just on their own. That’s not saying that it’s gone away entirely and that it doesn’t get bad at times, but overall it’s gotten a bit easier to deal with for me. And for any of you that are struggling with similar feelings, just remember that your effort’s do count; what ever anyone says, they can’t take that away from you. You matter. Stay determined
If you really wanted to kil yourself, you would've. Like I have done countless times. I only wanted someone to care. I wanted that last impression. I wanted people to find me alone. But I didn't. Because I was a coward. I should not be here. I should be gone. I should just take that leap, that gun, that noose.. Goodbye. That's all I need to say
Michael Stone. Hey hey bro listen... You are a creation of god.... He makes no mistakes.... We all will die sooner or later ... But, dont die unnaturally..keep that noose loose and gun away from yourself.... You are not precious to me but to someone....
my eyes already welled up listening to this speech he just told his story with so much dedication that probably this is just the words I might hear whenever I feel too hopeless to keep on . His words were healing yes but the emotions behind them was even more powerful and I like how he voiced them out and reached to a lot of people . Really brilliant
My life isn't bad. I've had some rough moments, I have difficulties, but really it's not that bad. There's things that make me happy. I can see a good future for myself. I'd have to work for it, but it's possible.
Still, sometimes, I think about killing myself. Because I don't think I deserve this life, this happiness. I don't deserve any of it. And I don't deserve help. People still try to help, because they care, and I'm torn between the relief that *someone cares*, and unbearable guilt that I *made* them care when they could have been using that time and energy for something more worthwhile than me.
“We need you to be leaders in this conversation.” Every time I talk about living with depression and anxiety openly I hope I reduce the stigma around it and I hope I make someone else feel comfortable to talk about their struggles too. Excellent talk.
I want to die so bad i just want to hang myself or cut myself till im drowned in my own blood but i never could bring myself to do it i was gonna kill myself and i still want to. I have a therapist but i dont tell her the truth. I intend on dying exactly 2 weeks from now. If i dont the i will update this but if i do you wont hear from me. I want to thank this person for saying this but it didnt really help me. It touched me in a way but it didnt help. Good bye
There is no merit to my life that is an argument for its continuing existence, only merit to be found in how its cessation holds consequence to others. If that is what my life is to be deemed worthy of, it is one not worthy to be lived at all, and the only thing selfish in its extinguishment is to be found in the heartless individuals who oppose such only so they are spared suffering themselves.
I dont want to die because I think I will miss my family but I don't want to live too because of the struggles, thinking about the future - the struggles you need to overcome. But if possible I want the cause of my death be quick and painless
ALL OF YOU...You ARE good enough, you ARE worth it, you ARE beautiful, you ARE amazing, you ARE loved more than you know, you DO make a difference, DON'T GIVE UP...PLEASE ask for help...Love and Hugs ❤❤❤
I have made a video about Suicide because I have been on both sides. The last six years has been the most painful time ever, especially since I got sober. I have to tell my head to shut up an got angry enough to keep fighting. Am trusting my Higher Power with all the Faith that I have. Yes, I am also a recovering addict an alcoholic. Suicide is a permanent solution to a temporary problem. We need a vast Improvement to our Mental health system Now.
I was fifteen when I attempted, I lived in an abusive house and I was ready to give up. I'm a sociopath and I'm sad to say that i can't understand or feel emotions very well. I'm getting better but adults today just don't seem to care for people who claim to be depressed. They say there overreacting or making things up. They're wrong, depression is nothing to be overlooked. Just know that there are people like you all around the world.
Feel like suicide is highly overstated. People feel like those couple of days where they hated everything and wanted them to end mean their suicidal. Much like depression. They'll then start posting attention seeking stuff on they're social media's and get the attention, whilst those who are actually suffering don't get the help because no one's want to help the person who makes them feel uncomfortable. They'll become more angry and disappointed at the world because of these people
Hate when people say "wow I want to help that guy" (let's say who appeared in a documentary and wanted to die), yet they can be the ones causing it by ignoring those around them who need help because they feel slightly uncomfortable around them
Dūhk suicide is a known problem now,there are websites on the net that can help you and even go in categories such as lgbt,you can get a lot of support simply by asking,try talking to somebody,u wont regret it.
Hello, i’m Claude and i’m 17.
One day, one depressing day, i decided that i was going to kill myself. I planned it and everything on the bus, on my way to college. On the day, I had found a gap in the fence that stopped you from reaching the river, i thought i could slip through and i’d jump in after my day in college was over. There was a bridge you could climb and jump off of but no, I didn’t want anyone to know what i was doing, i just wanted to do it alone, i wanted to disappear without anyone knowing i was gone.
I was so upset on that day that i really think i could of done it but something stopped me. I remembered this exact video, i remembered watching this video, years ago when i was 14. Not long after this TEDtalk video was made, i never even subscribed back then, i realised and i still haven’t but i remembered this video and when i found it again on that depressing day, I was able to just retrace. Retrace my mind, my steps and anything else that stopped me from actually going through with the plan of killing myself. If it wasn’t for this video that really helped me out on that day, I believe that I could of tried to kill myself. That planning was only a few months ago and i have no idea when i’ll plan to do the same thing again but i’ll always have this video to help me realise that my life doesn’t have to end so soon. Even if this video doesn’t help, ill keep reminding myself that i need to stay strong and not just for me, for everyone that’s ever supported and loved me.
Its become difficult to control my emotions now, it’s hard to believe that if i open up that ill get the help i need. I feel like i’m on my own and i have to drag myself through life. But dragging is tiring and i hate having to do things on my own, it’s something i force myself to do though because if i don’t try then i won’t be able to be who i want to be.
octøber you dont have to do everything alone,you are strong but thats not enough when ur depressed. Remember on how many good things like this video u would miss out on. You can always open up on the internet. Im sure a lot of people would try to help you. I know its seems difficult to change your life when you are depressed,but its not that hard. You only need to ask and help will come.
I’ll star by saying I’m 13 years old, I have a good life and a good family but I just always feel sad and stressed, as a result of this, practically lock myself in my room, mostly on my Xbox, until I am forced to go out, which I don’t like, I feel depressed and I have told my parents about this before, yet it was like they don’t believe me, and after a day my like carried on as normal and hey dismiss, I don’t know what to do anymore, I don’t know whether it’s depression or Mabey something else, but I know if I don’t seek help in the future, I might do something that I regeret😢😭
I'm a workaholic to keep myself from thinking horrible things. My family says I need to slow down and see a therapist, but it scares me. All of last year I joined so many clubs, I never really had time for much outside of school. I never ended up having homework outside of math, so I took up orchestra. For a while, it helped. Winter came. My stepmother took my stepbrother and left. She never thought of how it would affect me; it worsened my mental health. "She left us because of me. I wasn't a good enough daughter. She took him with because I wasn't a good enough older sister to him. I need them.. I need them.." I ended up trying to drown myself. I only told two people. They've been trying to help. They made me happy again. Then I transitioned to a new area. There were more people than ever before. Not even half through the year already and there are rumors. With a surplus of people, rumors spread fast. Withing less than a week, people were saying I'm dating my cousin. I'm not, he's my best friend. They don't help. They make it worse. I want to try, try again. I won't. I just have to keep busy.
That reminds me of when I first picked up the violin. It was great; It helped with my depression. And then my teacher killed it. But maybe something new will come up and it will make me feel happy again.
Mystery Dark you kinda remind me of my sister,she is hardworking but she has depression and sometimes she lays all day in bed having headache. But 2 months ago she started liking football and its like she has been reborn.
Attempting and surviving suicide does not cure the depression that often leads there.
It only means "not today".
Ironically, "carrying the torch" to help others like you is be best way to survive.
It is a heavy boulder to push uphill - but you can't stop or it will roll over you.
You are an amazing person. You still feel for others after all the pain. Just want you to know that you can always open up on the internet if its easier,just ask for help you deserve and people will help you.
My short point is - surviving suicide doesn't make you feel lucky to be alive to the point that you don't attempt again. It's facing the consequences that will leave you worse off : same sick mind in addition to broken body.
How about the fact that low functioning autistic have an average life span of approximately 40 years and high functioning autistic have a life span of approximately 54 years? Why? We are killing ourselves off because of lack of help and understanding. That is not acceptable.
I spoke to someone about the thoughts in my head. I told them about how I just am so tired and want to go home so badly. They asked me why I was still alive then and I replied that I owed money to a friend. That was the only reason. They figured out the repay schedule and said okay, you have a year to go until you die. That was it. It won't be that long. I am not scared of death. I am scared of life and of dying because of the pain. I am not depressed. I am just so, so tired. You can not find me and stop it. This is not my name.
“I feel thin, sort of stretched, like butter scraped over too much bread.” ― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Fellowship of the Ring.
Honestly i cant relate at all,but if i was in that situation,i think that i would forget about some small thing thats owing money to a friend and do some crazy and fun things. Your friend would understand. Also death by itself isnt a negative thing. Its just a natural instinct to fear death,nothing more. If you are a religious person you should even greet death.
I feel like I understand, but still.... I don't want to live. not for long. I don't want to have a family and get old. This sounds like a nightmare to me. And feep inside I know that in some part of my life I will kill myself. I just know.
Do you ever feel that you are a burden for everyone in your life? Do you ever feel that whatever you are doing is useless? Cause I do...don't know what I'm going to do with my life if something doesn't go as I exepected
I seem to be stuck on one of the first stages of suicide where the depression is painful but the experience of killing myself may not be worth it. There are many times throughout the week where I'm trying to picture what my funeral would be like and what conversations the people I've known, would be having.
Sir Klopp hope it gets better for you. Just want you to know that there are people out there that care for you and that would miss you. Just remember its your life and you can do what you want with it without being judged. ;)
I think its OK to want to check out, I think its OK to actually do it. There will be sadness for those who are 'left behind' but it will lessen with time. We all came from somewhere so deciding you want to go back is probably a good thing to do if you really want to. Life can be really hard for some and its easy to give easy answers and trite platitudes.
I want to go and will do it at some point soon, I don't feel its a negative thing for me, those who tell me I have so much to live for are doing it for their own reasons not to feel sad, to feel as though they are helping. Its more about them. If I decide I have more to die for than to live for, who can tell me otherwise.
Andy McCollough your last statement is so true.All those delusional ppl “helping” others only so they dont feel guilty when they have done nothing. But suicide is not OK. Not because of others but because of you. I cant relate to you,before i thought i had a tough life,but when i see what some other people are going thru,i become ashamed. you deserve to have a good life. Nobody has the right to judge you. Its your choice. Still, a random stranger on the internet is suggesting you to give life 1 more chance, once you break out of depression, life becomes so much better,like those times when u were a kid,can you remember?good ol times heh. My advice is to seek professional help or if u need a friend u can talk to, im here :)
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