The fifth annual TEDxToronto conference took place on September 26, 2013 at The Royal Conservatory of Music.
For our 2013 TEDxToronto Conference, all talks, performances and demos were rooted in our selected theme, "The Choices We Make."
About the Speaker:
Mark Henick is a mental health advocate. Informed by his direct experience with this aspect of the health care system, Mark has authored commentaries on issues relating to mental health for major newspapers across Canada and the U.S. His undergraduate degree is in Psychology and Philosophy, with a graduate degree in Child Development. At 22, he served as the youngest President of a provincial Canadian Mental Health Association division in history. He is the youngest member of the board of directors for the Mental Health Commission of Canada.
For more information visit www.tedxtoronto.com
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Thanks for sharing this, Ted Talks. We need videos like this to save lives. This is a truly inspiring story and I hope a life was saved after when that one person watched it. I am a survivor myself. In September, it will be eleven years. You are not alone and I love you if you are feeling hopeless.
My family loves me. I have a lot of friends and I am happy with my work but at the end of the day you'll realize that life is an individual work and not a group project. What's worse is that your stuck in this system wherein you have to work to death to live. No freedom and the only escape you'll have is death.
A person does NOT have to be mentally ill to want out of a society that just doesn't work. Working so much to survive, working for people that are trained and allowed to degrade you, where it's looked upon as being normal and acceptable to be abusive to another human. Where our own government sucks the life from it's people while earning hefty amounts, owning several houses and sports cars, etc... when you are controlled to the degree that you don't have freedoms or choices anymore. Have you ever thought that sometimes it's for relief from having a life of no control of your own well being or existence! The body is the only part that dies. The soul lives on. So in truth Suicide is not death. It's just death of the vehicle your driving this time around. When a person knows a circumstance is not going to change for them, and all the people talking cannot really change it either, then what's the point? People that want to leave this Earth experience are judged to no end. Rather than solve the root of the problem, people sugar coat it to avoid their own guilt or discomfort. I would love a world where everyone goes to a job they love, or at the very least one where the bosses aren't allowed to legally defile and degrade you. Fire you for any reason they see fit, making it hard for you to take care of yourself and those you support!!! That's more the crime! The allowance and toleration of cruelty, overwork, abuse, and degradation of human beings for the benefit of others. The ultimate pyramid scheme where the few at the top are well and it gets worse for each level below. There comes a point when some people lose all joy in this world. When we can solve that maybe we can solve suicide, because it NEVER occurs without a valid reason! It's a cry for change, not just a cry for help!!!
My hope is in you Lord. He came to save us all. Was it in his DNA and that's what's with the whole shedding of blood thing? Don't know, but i know he gave us the instructions for having the Kingdom of God here on earth. YES. CHANGING THEIR THINKING. Transform your mind by the renewing of your heart.
I ready know that feeling that if something happend you dont like like if somebody says you are weird or something like that. It stays in your head and you keep thinking About it and you know that you just neef to say to yourself: stop thinking about it but i cant and its making me feel like i maar crazy i dont want that feeling anymore.
I still have a little hope inside me but it's slowly fading as the days go on, to continue living is the same as to continue my suffering, I don't know what path to take in life, I have no interest in any kind of job nor interest in school death just seems the only way for me, it's not something I want for me but to end my suffering this is what has to be, unless I find a reason to live death will be the closest option for me
All of you commenting that you feel all this things or that you are suicidal, no you are not, you may have depression and may not want to go on but you don’t want to die, I know this because those who do feel this way those who are most likely to commit suicide are the quiet ones who don’t say anything and never talk about it most of you are also just doing it for the attention I know suicide and depression is a real thing but those who talk about usually aren’t the ones who need help
I wrote a deadnote and youtubed how to tie a noose, i dont drink but tonight i was going to get drunk & give up...i have a wife & 5 daughters. I was in my garage & stumbled upon suggested videos found this, really changed my outlook on my life. I wnt to dance with my daughters at graduation & walk them down the aisle wedding day
Anybody get this a lot "But you're so handsome/beautiful there's no way you can feel insecure, depressed or anxious." OR "You have "everything" there's nothing to worry about." OR how about the opposite party assumes things, or in their words "KNOW" things, without 100% knowing anything about you, having only seen you (not knowing your name, who you are, where you're from, what you like/don't like, goals, etc.).
Supisara Play we choose suicide cause being alive or dead its the same. Nothing really matters and when something passes that hallucinogenic barrier, its most likely to go wrong.
Some of us just gets tired of failing and be a complete shame.
I hope I can do everything for my children that will NEVER make them feel like they are not good enough. Please talk to someone when you are sad. Dont keep it inside people love you and care about you.
This makes me happy. I've been struggling with depression and suicidal thoughts for years and my parents have always just added on to that. Luckily though i have sisters who are so loving and supportive beyond belief and my sole reason to keep holding on. So i know how important family is and what a big role they can play regarding one's mental state. I'm sure your kids will be fine with your loving guidance.
just after I finished school was when I was at my worst and almost made the jump thinking to myself that there would be nothing for me out there I would be useless and that there was nothing left for me that could possibly give me a reason to live... and I still think that way I remember the day it got too much and I opened my small bedroom window and found myself paused halfway in my bedroom the other half on the roof unable to do anything just crying trying to get myself to move but never able to bring myself to. I really did hate my fear of heights I even remember it being a nice sunny day that day when I almost managed it had my fear not kicked in. Not even my parents knew of what almost happened that day and still I find myself looking at that window almost longingly but also fearfully wanting to make that one final jump that could end it all
I understand that. I myself have thought that for a long time. I suffered alone and i tried to die alone. My attempt failed and i started to talk about it. Of course it was a slow process, i needed to learn how to trust and let go of my fear of wasting people's time or burdening them or being ridiculed and not taken seriously. I don't want to lie to you, talking doesn't necessarily solve everything (it can for some people though), but once people start listening to you and try to understand, things get easier. Even if they can't find any words to say, it makes a huge difference to know that you're heard. I had underestimated how much i needed people listening and understanding, so i know that this is difficult to believe, but i'm wishing that you will try it, because i know you're hurting. All the best wishes to you, please take care.
no I could never bring myself to do so as I feel like it would waste the persons time if I were to talk as that is what I have believed for a long time that I would waste someones time by talking so instead I stayed quiet
I try my best everyday, and its never enough.
The world still spins around the strings humans implanted. A good life its still depends in moral luck. The shadows are still behind me.
I can't remember my past but I know that I hated, the future seems hopeless and miserable. And mean while in the present my hands shacks and my heart bit gets stronger, just by thinning about the past and the future.
But that are the good moments, it's when I at least feel something. That I'm still human. That Im still alive.
The bad moments it's when being here or don't its the same.
The only person who made me feel alive, left me at my worst, now I’m lonely, as always, I am tired of my pain, of everything I loved doing, becomes not rewarding at all... I have told my parents for years about how I feel but they don’t understand and sometimes tell me I’m ungrateful because I do have food and clothes and blah... now I’m far away, from my country where I don’t feel like I belong and I would rather kill myself than going there, my only worry right now is what would happen if I do it and I’m far away from my family. I’m tired of this pain, this emptiness...
Aleja Jonas I'm sorry. I really am. To be honest, I'm tired of it too. I never have been so lonely in my life. I feel rejected, I feel that I'm not good enough, I hate myself.
I hope there is any way I can help you.
Mis mas sinceros agradecimientos a Beatriz Portero García y a Sebastián Betti no solo por la impecable traducción sino también por hacer disponible estos temas de los cuales nadie quiere siquiera tocar y literalmente salvar vidas, es lamentable sin embargo que sea de las pocas charlas de esta temática que cuente con subtítulos, saludos y reiterados agradecimientos.
screw that guy who yelled at you. what a beautiful ted talk. thank you and I hope you have a wonderfully long life and I hope the pain in your life eases until you cannot remember what it was like to feel hurt. <3
I live every day saying to myself hold on just a little bit longer. The pain is always there . My family and my doctor know I am dealing with depression but what they don't understand my battle to stay alive . People just don't want to hear how broken you are . I fake my way through things. But , in my life the walls are closing . The pain is increasing. Sometimes I can't even move .I can't voice that I am struggling to live . I honestly don't know how much longer I will be here . I suppose I will fake it until I can't.
My birth mother and grandmother both committed suicide--my mother first and my grandmother a year later. As a baby I was taken from them (I was a 60s Scoop baby from a Cree-Metis family) and between ages 12 to 23 made several suicide attempts. I made the choice to live for my daughter, but now, many years later, I'm feeling it again. I feel very sensitive to the destruction humans are wreaking on the planet. As I witness innocent people dying in war and animals going extinct, I feel like a part of me is dying too. Like everything that makes the world good and beautiful is disappearing, and all the sensitive, intelligent and gifted people along with it, including Indigenous people and people like Anthony Bourdain and Robin Williams. The main thing that keeps me going now is my belief that the world needs empathetic and sensitive people more than ever, and maybe I can be one of those people and make some small difference in the lives of others.
I think the best tip to get startet u know, getting what is inside of you out there. is to try and find someone who might be feeling the same. If you find that/those person/people, you will feel like you FINALLY have a place to be. You find people who connect with you, in so many weird ways its weird. Its like you all have something different inside of you, but in the end we're all human, and tho you might now have experienced what exactly they have, but you are still getting a story. a story about fighting for it, a harsh story about life, and a beautiful story about how life can be the best thing in the world. really tho if I didn't have my girlfriend (we got together after a year of being friends and talking a lot about this), I'd probably be ashes flying among the skyes u know?
I've been seeking help for 10 years...how do you know when you are going to go from thinking about it to doing it? I keep thinking as long as I have thoughts about what would happen to everyone around me if I did do it....that I assume I am not actually suicidal but just whiny....Crying daily..feeling hopeless...just don't want to be here....but I stay and not sure why?
This doesn’t apply to me.
Yes I believe suicide is my only option. But, there isn’t a cure for me. I am not depressed, I do not have anxiety, I am not insecure, I am not alone. I talk openly and recognise when my head starts to get bad. I do not benefit from therapy or drugs. Whatever I have, what ever wants me to kill myself can not be helped or wished away. No one understands that. Many people say that after attempting suicide they regret it. I didn’t regret it because the next time I’ll it make definite that I die. I’ve learned to not say goodbye because they call you selfish and stop you from fulfilling your wish. I am no selfishly I am desperate.
Kater Potater i know its hard but find something to grasp ahold of until you can live for you. Thats all it comes down to. I like to think of depression in way that i am a monkey, going from tree to tree. Until i fall, as we all do. You fall until you find a branch thatll hold your weight and then slowly find branches back up the tree
We choose suicide when the pain inside (greif/guilt/self loathing/lonliness/rejection/fear) is too overwhelming that the fear of living in this kind of pain is more terrifying than our natural human fear of dying.
True fact: No one will commit suicide if anyone around them cares. Don't view the suicidal as weirdos. Try to see the reality, people around suicidal don't give a damn. People don't want to talk about suicide is because suicides reveal how cruel humans are towards others.
When he said "just one more day" it really hit home with me. I found myself in the corner of my bedroom with a Glock .45 to my head and I was starting to pull the trigger and it hit me, My 5 year old daughter and my mom will be the ones who found me and I just couldn't do that to them. I said to myself "just one more day". Now 12 years later I am so glad I just gave it one more day.
I want to die my life will never amount to anything i have no hope, my family dont care that i want to kill myself , i have an urge thats getting stronger to slash my face all over multiple times no one wants me anyway so may aswell make sure.
the truth, though, is that nobody really wants to _hear_ you. they may say they do, but they really want to hear your "positivity" . your constricting, lying, manipulative, R E A L positivity. so, how am I alive right now?
I am scared.
One day I will help depressed and suicidal individuals around the world at a mental health facility I'd like to build in my country that rehabilitates them. I've been there & I'd like to help. Some health facilities are rude to people with mental illness (honestly). But I disagree with drugging mentally ill people and having them talk to therapist. We should help them be able to face reality.
I don't want to die..I'm afraid of dying..but some days;that is the only thing that I think of..I see everyone happy and with someone they love..then I look at me..and there's no one..no one whom I could share my thoughts with..no one whom I could love..it's just empty..I feel numb..like nothing in this world really means anything..all I want is peace..eternal peace
I can tell you with complete confidence that 60% of the people there will forget about this talk in 2 days, 10% will do so in maybe a week, 20% will remember but will choose not to act when someone needs help the remaining 10% will truly remember this lesson and do something. 60% of you reading this wont care, 10% will reply with "concern" but thats just a lie, another 10% will bs about this and the last 10% will like this comment
For me, my suicidality comes from a place of being totally overwhelmed by simple daily tasks, and that sense of feeling overwhelmed never changing for my entire life. That cycle--being overwhelmed, criticizing myself for being overwhelmed, and then feeling even more overwhelmed--is something I have learned to manage over the years. But I still struggle greatly. I would like to challenge the idea that all mental health issues are "treatable" (by pharmaceuticals, psychotherapy, cognitive therapy, "natural" supplements, etc) though. Many people, no matter what they try, still suffer greatly. I would argue that one possibility for this is that resolving grief (a big cause of many mental health issues, in my own opinion) is so complex and different for everyone. For some, this resolution may come quickly. For others, it may never come.
I really don’t know if my case of depression and anciety is treatable and sometimes i really wonder if it’s worth fighting. Love you all hope you don’t feel the same way becouse you don’t deserve it even though you feel like it. Becouse there is a way to treat How you feel but I’m the only who feels like i do.
Sometimes it is not a question of depression or a mental illness which negatively affects how you feel, the way you think and how you act, probably these terrible conditions are still treatable. But realizing that you are sane then, trying everything to sort your condition out, opposing the strongest willpower to start recovering and still continue to suffer so brutally due to something that is simply too much to bear. What we should do then, what we should think, what we should learn form life this time? I personally thing that time doesn't help to fix anything, it could be even worse. Learn to coexist with what’s happened, with the awareness to being torture day by day, by day, every second with this, with something so far from any understanding, is worst than death. Suicide, however, is a “permanent solution to a temporary problem”, as it is said. But what if the "problem" is not temporary, is not liked to an illness or treatable? It’s impossible and worthless think about beauty of life or love if you had already live them so intensely. That’s why any words we could heard from doctors, family, lovers and friends are so far to take an effect. Not everyone is blind in front of problems or stuck in his collapsed perception. Too many people in history decide for the “worse” precisely because they had faced clearly life.
Don't bother replying
I'll be dead as soon as post this
No more, im sick of the empty platitudes and advice. Something is wrong with me. And i have to change it. "Why don't you do what you want?" Why? Because i would sincerely appreciate the comfort death would afford me. "Oh No!" is what they'll say, as if it somehow means they care, and which they do, only about themselves. They want to prevent themselves from feeling awful about what they could have done when there is nothing to be done. They can't accept it because they're scared. They'll be forced to contend with their inner demons and soon, I'll be an after thought. Nothing more than that. But it's okay, because i may finally know peace. While i realize this world is a magnificent and amazing, i have no part in it. Nothing will convince me otherwise. I have this power, no one else has that right in regard to myself. I really tried to be a shining pinnacle of a person, but that doesn't get you friends, interests do, and i haven't any. My cruel avarice will be the last burden that anyone should choose to carry. I will finally cure the insomnia of life and forever slumber
Ya, suicide may seem like the only option after a spouse cheats and lies, takes all she can, and then your child is doing the activities you used to do as a family with him. Not much to live for after that it would seem. Initially
I hope this one helped someone. . Didn't hit the mark for me. 99% of TED Talks are really inspirational, through provoking, and inspiring. This one. Not so much. I got a lot more out of "TEDx Casual Suicide" than this one. Like I said, I hope this video helped someone.
This video is great for young people, but they have their whole lives ahead of them. Old people like myself have passed their expiriation date. If we were supposed to be successful in our lives, it would have happened by now. So what is the point of sticking around?
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