After documenting and researching over 50,000 coaching interactions in the workplace, Bill Eckstrom shares life-altering, personal and professional development ideas through the introduction of the “Growth Rings.” The rings illustrate how dangerous it can be to remain in a state of comfort and how being in discomfort is the only way to sustain growth. You’ll be amazed at the world-changing outcomes discomfort can have on your life and the lives of others.
Bill Eckstrom is an entrepreneur, author, speaker, outdoorsman and father of three. With a passion deeply rooted in growth and development, Bill has always been fascinated by the role a coach has on the performance of individuals and teams. As a result, he founded the EcSell Institute whose sole focus is to educate, track and measure coaching effectiveness for leaders within organizations around the world. This has led to hundreds of keynotes, published articles and e-books created from the research and documentation of coaching interactions and outcomes. You can learn more about the EcSell Institute here: https://www.ecsellinstitute.com/
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Success in the face of adversity on the physical and emotional arenas . Having a goal other than making money . Finding contentment and happiness in a mundane unchallenging job. that is the goal . Resisting the urge to challenge yourself. daring yourself to remain as you are . preaching the simple life . Finding a partner who shares your mediocrity and is happy as is .
People are unhappy on account of all those TED Talks urging you to leap into the unknown . it frightens them , and makes them miserable.
He never mentions why he was fired from his first job ? Perhaps he needed a good shaking up after such poor performance that led to his being sacked .
Why should someone who is competent and successful in his low paid, low powered job be made to feel a failure ?
If life is slow and predictable and safe and we need 'action' , there are always novels and movies that provide us with all the excitement we crave ( in the safety of our own homes ).
A life without challenges is boring. You will have a story to tell only if you move out of your comfort zone. But why do you have to move out of your CZ? we as human tend to stay within the comfort zone. it will only happen if your desires to succeed are way greater than your fears to fail.
amazing, i truly have a similar view about growth too. however people confuse discomfort with unhappiness. unhappiness is not having a job that you like. discomfort is improving yourself and leaving that "permanent monthly salary job" "voluntarily"
I was fired a couple weeks ago. I have decided to pack up & move states in an effort to find greener pastures. I have always been a calculated risk taker, so I am very exited about the new opportunity to grow.
My question is: a person who is continually growing is happy? I'm in line with this speach because it represents what i'm doing in my life but it's not the secret of happines. The goal of our lives should be the happines or not? But it can't be a costant of our lives so...
This guy is completely wrong. He took his specific situation about his job and generalized it to be the only way to find growth. Comfort is what allows for clear thinking and concentration which is important for problem solving. Why was Ancient Greece a pioneering place where many innovations happened? Because for the first time there was an economic system in place that allowed for the rise of a scholar class: people had financial comfort and thus could afford education. Their lives were secure so they could focus on abstract things. If you are constantly thrown into situations of crisis you have no choice on what to work on. By having comfort, productive people are able to find some of the most groundbreaking discoveries. There is not just one way to do something.
Pessimistic view: Life is all about struggle, unless you are born rich or privileged you are destined to struggle.
Optimistic view: No pain no gain, hardships pays off and its always sweeter when you earn it.
Life is short, everyone tries to maximize gains they can enjoy before they die. Some need not struggle, most have to and some choose to give up on life. To how i see, all is the same, you give your own meaning to your own life, be it living it or ending it. We are just part of this endless cycle in the flow of time.
A Rosenberg fired me when I was 22 as a nanny. He said I was too educated and too gifted to waste my life being a nanny for $50 a week working for him. He complimented me as a person. I had not been as attentive as a Mom, because I figured he needed to be the parent, but he was disappointed because he wanted me to be the parent so he would not have to because he was a busy man. I left that job with a great feeling and went on to do wonderful things with no depression or self doubt. The compliment made the difference and I will always be happy for him, and hope his children found a new mother in the woman he would eventually marry.
Life begins at the edge of your comfort zone. Pema Chödrön suggests to “ Go to Places that Scare You”. To push past where we are comfortable. Then life becomes interesting and fulfilling. Then growth can occur.
I am 38 and have worked no more than 2yrs in my life. No, I am not a millionaire. It’s just that materialistic thing are nice. But I am picky with what is nice for me. I see other people only speaking about what they have , what they want and what they had. Been divorced 3x, because they wanted what I had. And once they saw what it was like , they rather work so they could brag.”what’s good money if you cant spend it?”Cash empowers some people. Freedom empowers me. What do I do on my free time? Part time PhD student.
I wonder if you can make comfort so comfortable and predictable, that in your brain, comfortableness itself becomes uncomfortable, unpredictable, and awkward, that you can't tell comfort from physical & mental wasting away.........I think I now have my experiment intent & plan to start being extra comfortable right away.......Hello, Dominos, I want to place a pizza order.............
how would one seek discomfort, i am very stuck and yet i've been trying to find who i am, what my passion is, and my career goals. But i can't seem to start on anything i think of then it just fades as another idea i have by losing my passion for it or interest. Is discomfort, going outside of my comfort zone, do i just need to take a leap and try something to feel whole and passionate again?
Do not make the mistake to think that wise sounding words work for everyone and everything. We are not all the same. Some people make things too complex all the time by themselves. Those people actually need to learn that not everything needs to be so complex.
The examples that he uses don't translate into real life as in it doesn't really tell me about the ways in which i should choose complexity over order. Where (in which domains of my ahould i choose it and if i do how do i do it. He also doesn't show tangible benefits of it to an individual. The kolvin/rosa parks example shows it for society and not individuals.
I did disaster insurance repair and insurance estimation for all carriers in America in my own company. Complete chaos was my playground for reordering the chaos into a new thing. I prefer some level of uncertainty to be in my zone. I found a friend with Mr. Chaos. He made me a lot of money too. Fear, not Mr. Chaos. If you attempt a friendship he will respond to you and teach you how to cope and see the possibilities beyond. Mrs. Comfort hates Mr. Chaos. Not a good strategy in my experience. Harmony is the solution that makes this work.
I don't doubt that this works, but I doubt my ability to get out of my comfort zone. I am a person with anxiety issues and constant worries about how others perceive me. I assume the worst before it even happens, and because of it I have trapped myself in a kind of cage that I can never seem to escape. My constant fears of embarrassment, rejection, and just not being worth anything keep me in my comfort zone.
Here's a paradox.... hmmm.... : so if we decide to acknowledge the power of discomfort as an agent of growth, shouldn't this be considered a step towards "order" or "comfort", because the fact that discomfort producing growth is a predictable outcome? Does this mean yourself triggering your own discomfort somewhat weakens growth? Slightly confused about this part.
how to give the first step into the complexity ring after years of order ring it will be quit hard decision that the person would choose to live the meaningless life until death and not going through the pain of the complexity ring
He has many great points but needs to learn more about human psychology, more specifically human empathy.
His point about his daughter crying on the court hit home with me. His lack of empathy toward her experience would undoubtably have far more negative effects than whatever “complexity” she gained.
I was pushed into competitive swimming by my parents and it domineered my childhood. I would sometimes cry at practice and at competitions, feeling like I had to push myself to such an extreme in order to please my family.
I believe we benefit from complexity and discomfort when it’s a result of OUR OWN decisions. It induces reflection on what we really want and need in our lives. The speaker never addressed the actual mental processes induced by being in such a state, the most critical element.
I loved this talk but must say there is a lack of focus on the person who experiences more Chaos, for them, seeking more Order is the clear choice. Bill focuses on the pursuit of the person in Stagnation state too much. Also I think people don't want to be existing in the state of Complexity all they time, they want to be able to wrest in Order.
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